Sunday, October 22, 2006
For me, at the moment, it’s gay marriage and children. Maybe this is because the story I’m immersed in at the moment is about a same sex couple fighting over the love of one child they both think is theirs. In trying to write my story, I’ve been asked numerous times how I was going to deal with the sex scenes in the book, since there’s a kid involved. And I ask myself, why should it be a big deal how I deal with them? I mean if it were a man and a woman with a child, there would be no issue.
Obviously, I’m not going to have my characters have sex near, or in front of the kid. That would be sick. I have written of two responsible adults in love, not two perverts. They are possibly even, in my opinion, more conscientious of keeping their intimate relationship behind closed doors because of the fact that they’re gay. This doesn’t just mean sex. It means any intimacy most straight people take for granted being able to do in public. Simple things, like holding hands and kissing.
Is it just me, or does there seem to be a HUGE stereotype when it comes to homosexuals and children? I’ve found that when you mention gay men (more so than lesbians) and children, there’s an uprising of derogatory comments.
Recently, I read a forum where they were discussing gay marriage and whether or not the individuals in said forum agreed if it should be allowed. Now that’s not an unusual subject lately, but a couple comments in particular made me see red.
One individual said that they didn’t think it was so much that people were against gay marriage, as much as they were against what would happen afterwards, like when the couple decided to start a family. Another said if gay marriage were allowed, it would be akin to allowing relatives to marry one another.
Now, I ask you, is this the society we live in? Where people think same sex couples are all child molesters, and being in a gay relationship is the equivalent of being in an incestuous one?
Frankly, I think this is a load of crap. Why can’t people just live and let live?