Friday, April 20, 2007

Brief notes on why women like m/m

One of the most common questions put to authors of m/m gay romance for women is "why?" -- why would women want to read about gay men? A few years ago there was a long, chewy thread on my favourite sf writers' forum about this, and I've been threatening for a while to write an essay summarising that thread. The actual essay hasn't materialised yet, but my preliminary notes are now up on my LiveJournal. Comments and further suggestions welcome (my LJ has anonymous posting enabled, so you don't need an LJ account):

Girls who like boys who do boys


veinglory said...

I have read ever theory on this from the Freudian to the Evoltionary--about 6-7 published books devote at least a chapter to it and gender studies journals get involved to.

I finally arrived that the conclusion that none of the explanations convinced me and some of them were very bad from my blood pressure....

Oh, and that I didn't require an explanation ;). Women like chocolate, girls like ponies, American like basketball and I like M/M. It's all good.


Jules Jones said...

Yup. This is meant to be a summary of things said by the women who actually *read* m/m, so I've got something to point at the next time someone asks me. And one of the reasons is to make it clear that there's far more than one reason, not just a nice neat one-size-fits-all explanation that purely by coincidence fits the socio-political beliefs of the person who's theorising.

My preferred short response to "Why on earth would women want to read about gay men?" is "Why do straight men like watching lesbian porn?" Because nobody ever seems to feel a need to demand that said men justify themselves.

Anne D said...

Fairly much this is my answer:

Cause it's bloody hot!

But then I do have to say, I like my M/M with big tough guys finding their sensitive sides. I'm not so much a fan of girly guys - thats not to say I won't read it (I'm an Anne Cain/Barbara Sheridan fan, and their men are often on the more feminine side), but just the idea of manly men, embracing the dark side appeals more.